Perfect Imperfections

Hi, I’m Tisha with Enchanted 3 Boutique. 

Do you have someone in your life that drives you crazy but you can’t live without them? I do, and today I want to give a huge shoutout to my husband, Mike. Lord knows we’ve had our struggles but I couldn’t go through this life without him. 

Mike and I met a little over 5 years ago in March of 2016. I had just moved to Northern Michigan for a job. I was only here for a few days when I received a message on Match.com. I had signed up for an online dating website since I was in a new area and wanted to meet someone to spend time with. As it happened Mike had also just signed up. We exchanged a few messages, exchanged phone numbers, and talked for a few hours when we decided to meet in person. We had 2 dates in 1 weekend. I hadn’t even started my new job yet. The rest, as they say, was history. We dated for about 6 months before we moved in together. My only complaint about that is, when we were dating he was a total cuddler, when I moved it, the cuddling stopped. When asked, Mike says, he already has me so he doesn’t have to cuddle anymore. This is still a point of contention in our marriage…lol! 

We bought our house about a year after we met, and a month after moving in together we found out we were pregnant with our son, Declan. Neither one of us ever planned on having children, but there was never a question once we found out we were expecting. Mike was amazing through the entire process. I had terrible morning sickness for the entire pregnancy, and red meat was a big instigator for it. Mike is the meat & potatoes type, but he didn’t hesitate to give up red meat so I didn’t have to smell it cooking. 

A few months into the pregnancy we decided to get married. We do not have this perfect elaborate proposal story. It started as a conversation that morphed into wedding planning. We decided not to rush and take our time with planning so we set the date for the September the following year, which would be 9 months after Declan was born. I didn’t even get an engagement ring until the night before my bridal shower. Mike was really sweet about it. He asked me to marry him, even though we had already been planning the wedding for 6 months, and said he thought I needed a ring to wear to the shower. If you know Mike, that is really the most romantic thing he has ever said…lol! He is not the romantic type, definitely more of a practical man, so when he does something sweet or romantic it means so much more. 

When we had Declan, it was the first time Mike had been around a baby. Before we had kids he had never really had an opportunity to spend a lot of time with any kids, so I thought he would need to ease into taking care of our son. Boy was I wrong. We had to have an emergency c-section with Declan. I did not react well to the drugs I was receiving for pain, and was doped up for most of the first day in the hospital. Mike was there diving Declan his first bath, changing all of the diapers, making sure when I did hold him that I didn’t pass out and drop him. When I say I was doped up, I meant it. It wasn’t until I asked them to pull me off the IV that night, and switch to Tylenol & Ibuprofen that I started coming around and could get up and help out with my baby. But Mike was there, catering to all of our needs. When we came home, that didn’t change. He was the same doting dad when we had our daughter, Devin, 2 1/2 years later.

He works 55+ hours a week and still makes time for his family. After work every night he takes Declan outside after dinner to ride his bike without training wheels, or ride his dirt bike, or play on the swing set. I work full time as well as running Enchanted 3 Boutique with my business partner Claire. Starting this business takes a lot of time. We spend many weekends doing shows or getting ready for shows. Mike spends those weekends taking care of the kids by himself. He’s had them entire weekends by himself if I am away. He’ll keep them occupied if I need to get products made. If the kids are sick, we split it up so sometimes he stays home with them so I don’t have to miss work every time. We split up taking them and picking them up from daycare, and taking them to the doctors. There is no way I could work full time, raise 2 children, and run a business without him!

He sounds great, right? And he is most of the time, but he has his moments. I am five years older than Mike & he thinks it’s hilarious to tell total strangers that I was his babysitter! It’s mortifying! He is a picker, & will do things just to irritate me. I’ll be standing at the sink doing dishes & he’ll come up behind & pants me, or will wait until I’m in the shower & sneak in to jump out & scare me. He can throw a temper tantrum that would embarrass a 2 year old. He thinks he is always right, and also thinks he can diagnose injuries and illnesses like a doctor. He’s infuriating and exhausting, but he’s also thoughtful, funny, although I tell him he’s not…don’t want him to get a big head, and above all else he would sacrifice anything for our family.

I would not want to go through this life with anyone else as my husband, partner, or pain in my ass. So who drives you crazy? Who can’t you live without? Share your stories and shoutouts in the comments below. We’d love to hear from you.